Since you are reading this article, you are probably well aware that it isn’t that easy.
Still, understanding confidence will help you achieve a much more grounded perspective and hopefully convince you that high self-esteem is not something you receive, but rather something you need to build for yourself. Basically, self-confidence is the ability to realistically assess your own abilities and strengths, while placing a stronger emphasis on what makes you great, rather than the areas where you might not be perfect.
When faced with various situations in life that challenge the above, there are two paths you can take.
Write down how you could have been true and self-loving instead.
One leads you to a life of fulfillment, the other leads to endless suffering.
I am the girl who used to believe that a relationship would fix her problems.
So I did everything I could to catch a dude with my looks.
“We conducted research about how nonverbal displays could make you feel more powerful,” says Andy Yap, co-author of the study “Power Posing: Brief Nonverbal Displays Affect Neuroendocrine Levels and Risk Tolerance.” Subjects who held outstretched poses showed a surge in testosterone and a decrease in the production of the stress hormone cortisol.
Before your next high-pressure approach, take a big stretch and hold it for about one minute— your confidence will expand as well.[pagebreak] Pump up your body.
In middle school, a boy I liked told me my bushy unibrow looked like caterpillars on my face, so I asked my mother to take me to get my brows waxed.