My current boyfriend is nine years younger than me; the boyfriend before that, 10 years younger.
You don’t need to make like Stifler’s mom and prey on young 18-year-old boys. What you need to do is embrace the incredible sexual power you possess—and stop making excuses for why you can’t. If there’s one complaint I hear from younger men—and the reason they’re interested in older women, is that they’re a little tired of the same old scene and games.
And rather than this being intimidating, it turns him on. With a younger dude, there is less of a chance of getting damaged goods — a guy fresh off a broken-off engagement, for instance, or finding an old live-in ex-girlfriend's body wash (Cookie dough? You'll spend all your time at your place because his is either gross or his parents' house. You'll basically never have to do a Walk of Shame in your entire relationship. The occasional late night, unexpectedly fun house party, and kinda decent obscure band whose album he burned for you? The ambivalent dudes, shitty apartments, and entry-level bullshit job? While someone a little older might worry that you're veering off the path you should stay on, a young guy will encourage you to keep ~*~*~f OLLo Wi Ng y Ou R d Re Am~*~* to become a hand model or a papier-mâché artist or whatever.
Whatever tips you suggest to him will be imprinted on his unformed brain and carried over to With great power comes great responsibility, bra. Or having you sing "The Bear Came Over the Mountain" while putting things in his butt. Being the older woman means, among other things, that you are independent, smart, and have your shit together. For instance: During sex, Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey listen to ... Because you're the grown-up, and grown-ups know better. For instance, he knows you are more familiar than he is with the job search, so he listens when you suggest that, I dunno, maybe he use Comic Sans for his resume font. He's got less romantic history for you to deal with. You can relive the most fun parts of your younger years without suffering through the worst parts. He won't judge you for quitting a job you hate, traveling around Europe, or making some other random quarter-life detour.
Nine women dish on what they've learned from playing cougar.
As the saying goes, "You're only as old as the man you're feeling." So, are Madonna, Mariah, and J-Lo all on to something with their considerably younger beaus?
Either they aren't yet comfortable with it or they haven't been able to tap into their resources yet.
She can feel comfortable in setting the rules and doesn't need to feel like she is not in control of the situation. If commitment is something you may be looking for, you might want to opt for an older man. Communication is still not at its optimum peak in a younger man.
Their style is set by what is seen in the media and they are much more fashion savvy. Many younger men seem to be enraptured by older women.
They have a certain amount of respect that differs from an older man.
The problem is, you think that person has to be older than you. Just as chronological age doesn’t always “cure” one of immaturity, a man can be all of these things and still be 24, 28, 30 (depending on what you consider young). You’ve told yourself you don’t really want a younger man. Regardless of how sexually permissive and progressive we think we are, there’s still a bit of eyebrow raising when a woman dates younger. And when I tell people that (if they ask or if it comes up), I either get a lilting “Reaalllly” or a “You go girl!
When I was 36, I had a brief, wonderful affair with a lovely 24-year-old entrepreneur I met on an airplane.