I live in one: As a young European, I am deeply in love with my African boyfriend who pursues his career in Asia. After dating for a few months and sharing a wonderful time in an Asian country, we split up, as he had many doubts about things that seemed to separate us.
At this point in time, our differences seemed to be too wide to merge them into a happy, long-lasting life together. After one year—when I had already returned to my home country—he approached me again, explaining how wrong he was, and asking for a second chance.
Even though different time zones and tight budgets influenced our ways of communication, it only mattered that we had found our way back to each other.
Watch our latest: Friends with Benefits Dear Guys, So I have been friends with this guy for eleven years; we actually went out on one date right before he told me he was moving to the US for work. But then as time went on I met my now ex (after 8 years) and he was dating other girls and we both lived our lives.
I didn’t know what this implied, but my heart was saying wholeheartedly as I was confident the differences weren’t stronger than our love.
My heart felt embedded in his, and I still loved him deeply.
We get along really well, and find each other very attractive.
And we slept together for the first time during his visit.
Below, she takes us through a relationship reality check to keep your head clear at every stage of the relationship: Frances' first-date trick (known as her "Heartache Prevention Question") is simply to ask him, point blank, if he believes in X (X being your ultimate dream and goal, be it monogamy, marriage, having a family, or running away to join the circus).