Atlanta, Georgia (CNN) -- "Would you be upset if a friend starting dating someone they knew you were once deeply in love with?
Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex. She might get pissed at first, but she’ll get over it. Is your best friend in a happy, committed relationship? You’ve got the green light to date him if you want to. If she’s really your best friend, she’ll just want you to be happy too. But sometimes, the heart wants what it wants (sorry for getting Selena Gomez stuck in your head). I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.
If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.